Erika Jayne is surrounded by Toms, but none are more supportive of the “Real Housewives of Beverly Hills” star these days than her first husband, Thomas Zizzo, and their son, Tommy Zizzo.
When asked whether she is close with her only child’s father, Jayne, 50, excitedly answered in an interview with Bravo’s “The Daily Dish” Tuesday, “Yes, actually, I am!”
The reality star shared that Thomas has been “very supportive, honestly, throughout the entire process” of her ongoing legal and financial women with her estranged husband, Tom Girardi.
“And my mom is close to him and his mother,” she explained. “People don’t understand this, but we’re actually pretty tight. They have been very supportive of me, and I’m very grateful.”
Jayne added that her high-profile troubles have strengthened her relationship with her son, too.
“My son’s been amazing,” she said of Tommy, a Los Angeles Police Department officer who has always preferred to stay out of the limelight.
“And I will say this — the silver lining to all of this s–t is that our relationship is stronger,” Jayne said. “My son and I, we’ve really come together. … Hell be 30 in June. Jesus. I just remember walking around here in New York being pregnant with him, but he’ll be 30. And so asking him what he thinks about things, you know, you get this adult perspective, and it’s really nice.”
Though the “Xxpen$ive” singer has said in the past that Tommy does not keep up with her on-screen drama, there was one headline related to her love life that caught his attention.
“Oh my God, I’ll never forget,” Jayne recalled. “One time, he called me, he’s like, ‘Hey, are you dating this guy?’ I was like, ‘No, what the f–k are you doing? I’m not dating him.’ He was like, ‘OK, well, you know, I saw it somewhere.’ I was like, ‘Call me, please, before you, you know…’”
Erika and Thomas met when she was a 19-year-old go-go dancer in New Jersey and he was a 26-year-old DJ at a Manhattan hotspot.
“He was a tall, muscular Sicilian with the kind of streetwise swagger that only native New Yorkers can muster,” she wrote in her 2018 memoir, “Pretty Mess.” “He was an absolute piece.”
The two moved in together after six months of dating, and she became pregnant with Tommy shortly thereafter.
With a baby on the way, Erika and Thomas decided to get married in December 1991. Tommy was born in June 1992. By 1996, Erika and Thomas were divorced, and she set up shop in Los Angeles to chase her.
“I feel like my marriage came apart because of me, not because of anyone else. I can take responsibility,” she wrote in her book.
“I knew I was a good mom. I thought I was adult enough to be a wife and a mother, but really I wasn’t. Tommy bore the brunt of that. It was this constant pressure and it was hard for both of us to take. We broke up when my son was a little more than 18 months old. I came out of a divorced home. I did what I knew, which was to take my son and leave.”
In January 2000, Jayne married Girardi, who is now 83 and living in a senior home following his late-onset Alzheimer’s disease and dementia diagnoses.
The pair spent two decades reaping the benefits of the attorney’s successful law firm, the now-defunct Girardi Keese. But shortly after she filed for divorce in November 2020, Girardi was accused of Stealing millions of dollars from the settlement funds of Girardi’s vulnerable clients to support her lavish lifestyle.
The Bravo personality maintains she had no knowledge of Girardi’s alleged crimes and denies any wrongdoing.